NYT – What Friendship Means to an Introvert

I am a closeted introvert and public extrovert. Haa – what a Howard theory. Talking out of both sides of his mouth again. from 3:30’ish am, … until sometime around 7am – Introvert. Selfishly So. (it may be my CT genes) from 7’ish until 3’ish huge extrovert, almost a chatty, busy body, who likes to…


Good Old Chip.

Chip October 2021 Chip has been a primary character in the “Tales of Sturbridge” I have yet to write the tales … but Chip will be front and center.


Business 101 v2023

“The way I see it, (insert any business) there are four cultural problems,” “They are all the natural consequences of having a money-printing machine called ———— ….. hiding all other sins. The natural consequences are (1) no mission, (2) no urgency, (3) delusions of exceptionalism, (4) mismanagement.” Happens to both employee and management. “ as…


NYT OPINION, Bait words, Men, Respect or Purpose.

This applies and has applied to men and women, forever. French, made it clear that “Walsh” used bait words. The article does have a clear military angle, which only those in the military fully understand. Respect is sometimes a dangerous road, purists, fundamentalists … it could get ugly. Respect, as in kindness, understanding and helpfulness…


Control. Losing control makes one see things a bit clearer.

it’s almost 4 weeks now, no driving, no strenuous exercise, no sneaking off for an ice cream. I couldn’t wait for a car when I was 16, and I can’t wait for one when I’m 58 … holy cow, this is ridiculous. Firstly, Shelley does not drive fast enough… unless she is fighting with a…


Michael J. Kelley, Stamford / Darien CT. St. John’s Cemetery

large multigenerational site. Great Grandfather to me.


ACDF Neck Surgery – a lot of benefits.

Shelley Izzy Everyone else I like visits and visitors I took out an actual watch. I haven’t worn one of these in 10 years. The Howard Theories NVDA pays me back Walks in the woods Smoothies Shelley This is really the Howard Theory on adaptation, appreciation and that “most everything is an opportunity.”


NYT – The Benefits of ‘Wise Selfishness’ –

A story about the nyt happiness writer and his visit to the Dali lama and a conversation about selfishness – My Howard Theory on this is age old. I learned it and have been practicing it forever. It is one of the 3 or 4 base tenets of my life. (My earliest memory, maybe age…


WSJ: The Way You Tell Your Life Story Matters. Start Now.

The Wall Street Journal’s obituary writer reflects. I have known this since I was 13 or so. It has made everything easy for me. Hopefully easier for anyone who knows me as well. Our lives are stories, some short, some long, some twisted, some boring. But when you realize how short life really is, and…


My Friend Mike –

This can fall under pickleball, this could fall under circumstance, it could fall under surgery chaos theory. but none of those do it justice. I’ll go with divine intervention. The religious kind. I am not all that religious, spiritual as they say, but do like to give space for it, to any and all. It…